A SPECIAL ZEPHYR EXTRA CHRISTMAS BONUS POST. MOSTLY FOR ME…
This is really just a personal reminiscence, and probably of little interest to most Zephyr readers. But it occurred to me recently that this is the first Christmas, where I am the only surviving member of my immediate family. My father died in 2009. My brother passed away two years ago, in December 2020, and my mother died in February at the age of 94. I’m the last Stiles standing. And of course my grandparents all left us decades ago.
Also I read today that a recent “survey of 2,000 Americans who are traveling to visit family for the holidays found respondents can spend an average of three hours and 54 minutes with their family before needing a moment to themselves.” ( click here for the link)
While families have always managed to find something to argue about when pushed into confined places, it was certainly different for me as a kid. As I got older, issues like civil rights and the Vietnam War, and my desire to live a different kind of life “out West,” became points of contention and acrimony within my immediate family. But in the first decade of the second half of the 20th Century, there was still a certain family harmony that trumped differences of opinion. We have since somehow lost that, and in most cases, never got it back.
When I think back on my childhood and those first ten years, it occurred to me that it was our grandparents — they were the real glue that kept the family connected. I grew up with all four of my grandparents, alive and relatively healthy, and all of them within five miles of our home. So we saw Grandma and Grandpa Montfort and Grandma and Grandpa Stiles on a regular basis. We had Sunday dinner with one or the other almost every week. In the summers I pedaled my bike from our home to my grandparents’ house in Crescent Hill to cut their grass. Grandma Montfort always kept her fridge stocked with those little 6 ounce bottles of Coke and Canada Dry ginger ale. Grandpa Montfort sat on the steps and watched; he was always afraid I’d somehow get hurt. Holidays were always like family food festivals. In fact, for a decade, I would guess that Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and the 4th of July were all holidays in which attendance was mandatory. And none of us minded. We loved it.
I was probably closer to my grandparents, and especially my mother’s mother and father, than any other adult. Grandpa Montfort was the rock I needed during some rocky parts of my childhood. It was always him that would hug me and say, “I don’t always understand you, but I always love you, and I’m always behind you 100%.”
Who could ask for more than that?
So…this is my Stiles Family Christmas Album, going back to the time I was about two. My father started working at Sears, then known as Sears Roebuck & Company, at its Louisville store at the corner of Broadway & 8th Streets. He had graduated from the University of Louisville, just two years after his honorable discharge from the US Army Air Forces. He was an officer and the navigator of a B-24 Liberator in the Pacific at the age of 21. (You can read that story here).
Four years after he began his career at Sears, Dad became the manager of the camera department; subsequently he was able to buy, probably at cost (!). an excellent single lens reflex 35 mm camera, and only shot Kodak’s new Kodachrome color transparency film, the most extraordinary film ever created. So while most of my peers have little or nothing in the way of their photographic histories, except a faded black and white snapshot or two, I have a treasure trove of images … thousands of them, all taken by my father over the course of the next two decades. This collection includes a decade of Christmas gatherings, mostly from the 1950s, until it seems like everything and all of us changed. It was a different world then.
It wasn’t perfect, and there were terrible injustices to be overcomes and wrongs to be righted. But it feels to me like we threw away all the good aspects of that time to correct those wrongs.
Like I said, I’ve put this album together more for myself than anyone else. But if you enjoy the images and especially the brilliant photography of my father, then it was worth the effort…Merry Christmas to all the Zephyr readers out there, and to everyone who still finds value in our country’s past, with all its faults and fumbles…JS
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Loved the photos. Growing up across the street from your family we were a reflection of what you presented in the story. My older brother was a year younger than you, I was a year younger than Jeff. Mom and Dad kept going and we had a younger brother and sister as well. Christmas was magic in those days and indeed they did start early barely giving Santa time to deliver the presents. We traveled to Frankfort or Bowling Green Kentucky to visit our grandparents but we did that many Christmas holidays after spending early morning at home. Dad took a good number of Christmas photos as well that are loved by the family. They are spread among us now as my folks have both passed. Those days are truly a world and life time past but to this day I am transported back to another time when I see even a small lit Christmas tree. When I smell a live tree I almost have to sit for a moment as the memories are so wonderful but intense. A wonderful reminder Jim, thanks.
I found a Christmas card recently from the Caldwells, our next door neighbors, and directly across from you. It was a photo of the entire family making a snowman in the front yard…I’ll send it to you later. Or maybe post it as a comment on the fb page.
Jim, thanks for this article and the photos. My memories of Christmas as a child closely match yours. We would start begging to get out of bed and go to the Christmas tree to open the gifts at 3 am or so. My dad usually made us wait an hour or two. Then the kids would go to visit cousins to see what Santa had left them.
thanx, j.s. — i got a little nostalgic, as you’ve conveyed/wrapped-up the common (?) denominator of the familial thing for, if not all, i’d bet most of us.
Ah, the ’50s Christmas, I remember them well. Mostly my childhood toys were made of metal and wood before plastic really kicked in the mid “50s. I had Lincoln Logs to build little forts and log cabins, my grandmother in Ohio knitted and sent sweater’s, scarves, and caps for the cold plains winter, and the year I finally got my Red Ryder lever action carbine I never touched my Roy Rogers six-guns again. Although I did keep my Roy Rogers sheriff”s badge with the secret compartment for delivering secret messages.
And what about those department store windows decorated with the elaborate Christmas scenes featuring both religious and secular displays with moving figures and elaborate electric train layouts?
One year I awoke before dawn and there was a Lionel train set on a big wooden platform made by my grandfather and our Christmas tree was set up in the middle. Every year thereafter we always set up our tree in the middle of that train set.
When Christmas was over and people put their trees out in front of their houses to be carried away by the city, my buddies and I scoured the neighborhood for as many as we could find and built elaborate Christmas tree forts in a tiny little wooded area near our neighborhood. As the needles fell off, we kept mashing them down and our forts got smaller and smaller. What good is a fort if the enemy can see into it?
My father even wore a tie to baseball games…it was around 1967 where that all changed and my dad went casual. By the mid 70s, he was growing sideburns….It feels like the first time that the older generation was almost imitating its children, instead of the other way around…but then there were profound chasms between the Greatest Generation and the Boomers. Many of those gaps I regret now.
Thanks for the memories of folks long gone now. Made me teary eyed. Aunt Susie was always so special to me. She often stood by me when I needed someone.
We never had Christmas in our Jewish household. We looked out at the Christmas world with pure envy. We would have called Adam Sandler’s vision of “8 Crazy Nights” pure bullshit. Instead of one blast of orgasmic ecstasy, we were supposed to get excited about a dreidel (no gambling!) and chocolate money. Oy gevalt to the gefilte fish and pickled herring. When I married into a large Catholic family, I ended up living with the very spirit of Christmas. The Worzalas were quite imperious about the one strand of tinsel at a time thing.
Good memories of family gatherings.
As a kid I enjoyed the opportunity to roam the Sears store. Seems like mom and dad bought everything there and took everything there for service.
And I’m sure you remember, around 17, the Seabold’s became my second family. I’ll never forget get any of those great times. But please Bill, don’t mention what. … was it Aunt Addie? About “the little one can’t make it?”
Aside from the snow, my Southern California ’50’s childhood Christmases looked a lot like that. Brought back memories. A vanished time in a vanished America.
My grandmother was Edna and a great aunt was Carrie.
Names not popular today. My brother had that red fire truck and I rode the back. Sears was a central part of our lives back then. I loved that store and picking toys from the Sears catalogue to write to Santa to ask for him to bring. This is a wonderful article. Thanks for keeping alive the memories of happier times. So true that today the glue is gone
Jim, you are blessed, in spite of the bumps in the road. So many folks never knew their Grandparents, much less, all four of them! A lovely share for Christmas, one complaint. Your last paragraph made me cry.
As an only child, I gloried in the attention my parents lavished on me. But like you, I am the last of that tiny family. My kids will glean what I knew from writings. And there will be times that things I”ve written will bring tears. But that’s how it goes, my friend.
Take heart and be even more blessed during the next years–hang on, the ride is picking up speed!
Merry Christmas Jimbo. I loved reading your story and seeing all the pictures of you and Jeff and your parents. Your mother looks exactly like I remember her. I remember she was a substitute teacher for my fourth grade class and we walked home together after school. I also remember every time coming up your driveway, Andy would come charging out of the bush next to the Caldwell’s house barking like crazy. Such good memories from those cherished childhood years. This Christmas Eve Elaine (Kremer) is hosting a dinner at her home for Tim, Lynn and Daniel and their spouses. Me and David have also been invited and weather permitting will also join the festivities. David hasn’t seen Tim or Daniel in I don’t know how many years. Should be fun time catching up. Anyway, enjoyed reading your article and hope you have a wonderful New Year!
That’s an amazing story. When I saw “Dresden” engraved on the camera, I immediately thought of the Allied bombing that practically wiped the city from the face of the earth. I wondered how they’d ever made a comeback. Thanks for the history lesson. Always good to hear from you.
Great Read Jim. My father had an Argus C3 – a workhorse 35mm camera of the late 50’s/early 60’s. I became keeper of the massive slide collection after he passed. We have many of same holiday scenes. That Kodachrome film is legendary. Occasionally, he skimp on film. Other film didn’t hold up near as well. I never realized how important my Dad’s pictures would mean to me until I was older. It adds perspective to my life.
Thanks for giving us a glimpse into your childhood. I can identify with so much of it!
Hi Jim,
We must be similar in age as these photos look familiar in time. As you mentioned, you are so fortunate to have so many photos from your beginning. We were marched out into the yard on Easter Sunday for pictures and a couple more at Christmas and that was it. And rarely was anyone smiling. The family bridge dates brought back memories too as my folks loved bridge. I know that all yours are gone now, but there is one thing I know…You CAN take all that love with you. Happy Holidays.
This was a touching Christmas tale you shared with readers. The most precious gem in here is your comment about your baby brother: “So how much longer is he going to be here?” I cracked up and could not stop laughing. THANKS for that!
This was a touching Christmas tale you shared with readers. The most precious gem in here is your comment about your baby brother: “So how much longer is he going to be here?” I cracked up and could not stop laughing. THANKS for that!
What I remember is that after we got up early and opened our loot, we’d walk up and down Glenmeade to see what Santa brought everyone else. Special memories for sure.
(I have a picture I was going to share here, but I can’t figure out how to do that.)
Beautiful piece! I enjoyed reading it!
Merry Christmas, Jim from the last standing O’Hara. When I go (77) that’s it-end of the line. I’m weirdly proud of that!
I LOVED reading this and seeing the photographs. Thank you for sharing this. I will look forward to more and hope you are up for it.
In spite of rough stretches, you’ve been blessed. The only thing missing in those photos are some Lionel trains.
Merry Christmas.
Loved the photos. Growing up across the street from your family we were a reflection of what you presented in the story. My older brother was a year younger than you, I was a year younger than Jeff. Mom and Dad kept going and we had a younger brother and sister as well. Christmas was magic in those days and indeed they did start early barely giving Santa time to deliver the presents. We traveled to Frankfort or Bowling Green Kentucky to visit our grandparents but we did that many Christmas holidays after spending early morning at home. Dad took a good number of Christmas photos as well that are loved by the family. They are spread among us now as my folks have both passed. Those days are truly a world and life time past but to this day I am transported back to another time when I see even a small lit Christmas tree. When I smell a live tree I almost have to sit for a moment as the memories are so wonderful but intense. A wonderful reminder Jim, thanks.
I found a Christmas card recently from the Caldwells, our next door neighbors, and directly across from you. It was a photo of the entire family making a snowman in the front yard…I’ll send it to you later. Or maybe post it as a comment on the fb page.
Jim, thank you for sharing your memories. They bring peace for this reader. Remind me of Christmas in Kansas during the 50’s.
Thanks Becky. I’m grateful to have Christmas memories from that time. You too.
Penny Caldwell. She was our sometimes babysitter, when Mrs. Coulter didn’t come. I thought she was so cool.
Jim, thanks for this article and the photos. My memories of Christmas as a child closely match yours. We would start begging to get out of bed and go to the Christmas tree to open the gifts at 3 am or so. My dad usually made us wait an hour or two. Then the kids would go to visit cousins to see what Santa had left them.
Merry Christmas Kay. You’ve been a real gift to me this year.
thanx, j.s. — i got a little nostalgic, as you’ve conveyed/wrapped-up the common (?) denominator of the familial thing for, if not all, i’d bet most of us.
Wonderful story, thanks for writing it. Makes a good start to the day!
Ah, the ’50s Christmas, I remember them well. Mostly my childhood toys were made of metal and wood before plastic really kicked in the mid “50s. I had Lincoln Logs to build little forts and log cabins, my grandmother in Ohio knitted and sent sweater’s, scarves, and caps for the cold plains winter, and the year I finally got my Red Ryder lever action carbine I never touched my Roy Rogers six-guns again. Although I did keep my Roy Rogers sheriff”s badge with the secret compartment for delivering secret messages.
And what about those department store windows decorated with the elaborate Christmas scenes featuring both religious and secular displays with moving figures and elaborate electric train layouts?
One year I awoke before dawn and there was a Lionel train set on a big wooden platform made by my grandfather and our Christmas tree was set up in the middle. Every year thereafter we always set up our tree in the middle of that train set.
When Christmas was over and people put their trees out in front of their houses to be carried away by the city, my buddies and I scoured the neighborhood for as many as we could find and built elaborate Christmas tree forts in a tiny little wooded area near our neighborhood. As the needles fell off, we kept mashing them down and our forts got smaller and smaller. What good is a fort if the enemy can see into it?
My father even wore a tie to baseball games…it was around 1967 where that all changed and my dad went casual. By the mid 70s, he was growing sideburns….It feels like the first time that the older generation was almost imitating its children, instead of the other way around…but then there were profound chasms between the Greatest Generation and the Boomers. Many of those gaps I regret now.
Thanks for the memories of folks long gone now. Made me teary eyed. Aunt Susie was always so special to me. She often stood by me when I needed someone.
Merry Christmas Nancy.
We never had Christmas in our Jewish household. We looked out at the Christmas world with pure envy. We would have called Adam Sandler’s vision of “8 Crazy Nights” pure bullshit. Instead of one blast of orgasmic ecstasy, we were supposed to get excited about a dreidel (no gambling!) and chocolate money. Oy gevalt to the gefilte fish and pickled herring. When I married into a large Catholic family, I ended up living with the very spirit of Christmas. The Worzalas were quite imperious about the one strand of tinsel at a time thing.
Good memories of family gatherings.
As a kid I enjoyed the opportunity to roam the Sears store. Seems like mom and dad bought everything there and took everything there for service.
Merry Christmas Jim
And I’m sure you remember, around 17, the Seabold’s became my second family. I’ll never forget get any of those great times. But please Bill, don’t mention what. … was it Aunt Addie? About “the little one can’t make it?”
Aside from the snow, my Southern California ’50’s childhood Christmases looked a lot like that. Brought back memories. A vanished time in a vanished America.
My grandmother was Edna and a great aunt was Carrie.
Names not popular today. My brother had that red fire truck and I rode the back. Sears was a central part of our lives back then. I loved that store and picking toys from the Sears catalogue to write to Santa to ask for him to bring. This is a wonderful article. Thanks for keeping alive the memories of happier times. So true that today the glue is gone
Jim, you are blessed, in spite of the bumps in the road. So many folks never knew their Grandparents, much less, all four of them! A lovely share for Christmas, one complaint. Your last paragraph made me cry.
As an only child, I gloried in the attention my parents lavished on me. But like you, I am the last of that tiny family. My kids will glean what I knew from writings. And there will be times that things I”ve written will bring tears. But that’s how it goes, my friend.
Take heart and be even more blessed during the next years–hang on, the ride is picking up speed!
Merry Christmas Jimbo. I loved reading your story and seeing all the pictures of you and Jeff and your parents. Your mother looks exactly like I remember her. I remember she was a substitute teacher for my fourth grade class and we walked home together after school. I also remember every time coming up your driveway, Andy would come charging out of the bush next to the Caldwell’s house barking like crazy. Such good memories from those cherished childhood years. This Christmas Eve Elaine (Kremer) is hosting a dinner at her home for Tim, Lynn and Daniel and their spouses. Me and David have also been invited and weather permitting will also join the festivities. David hasn’t seen Tim or Daniel in I don’t know how many years. Should be fun time catching up. Anyway, enjoyed reading your article and hope you have a wonderful New Year!
Sounds like a great reunion. Wish I could be there. Say hi to everyone.
That’s an amazing story. When I saw “Dresden” engraved on the camera, I immediately thought of the Allied bombing that practically wiped the city from the face of the earth. I wondered how they’d ever made a comeback. Thanks for the history lesson. Always good to hear from you.
Merry Christmas, Jim.
From Bob in London.
Jim, the present you were opening appears to be drafting set for kids, I’m pretty sure I see a ‘T’ square and a triangle. (3-4-5?).
Great Read Jim. My father had an Argus C3 – a workhorse 35mm camera of the late 50’s/early 60’s. I became keeper of the massive slide collection after he passed. We have many of same holiday scenes. That Kodachrome film is legendary. Occasionally, he skimp on film. Other film didn’t hold up near as well. I never realized how important my Dad’s pictures would mean to me until I was older. It adds perspective to my life.
Thanks for giving us a glimpse into your childhood. I can identify with so much of it!
Hi Jim,
We must be similar in age as these photos look familiar in time. As you mentioned, you are so fortunate to have so many photos from your beginning. We were marched out into the yard on Easter Sunday for pictures and a couple more at Christmas and that was it. And rarely was anyone smiling. The family bridge dates brought back memories too as my folks loved bridge. I know that all yours are gone now, but there is one thing I know…You CAN take all that love with you. Happy Holidays.
This was a touching Christmas tale you shared with readers. The most precious gem in here is your comment about your baby brother: “So how much longer is he going to be here?” I cracked up and could not stop laughing. THANKS for that!
This was a touching Christmas tale you shared with readers. The most precious gem in here is your comment about your baby brother: “So how much longer is he going to be here?” I cracked up and could not stop laughing. THANKS for that!
What I remember is that after we got up early and opened our loot, we’d walk up and down Glenmeade to see what Santa brought everyone else. Special memories for sure.
(I have a picture I was going to share here, but I can’t figure out how to do that.)